To learn more about coming out later in life,
David Cotton recommends the following books and resources
Coming Out Stories & Guides
Out Late With David on YouTube
Graying Rainbows – Coming Out LGBT+ Later in Life – podcast - Dr. Ginger Campbell
To get to know more about the Out Late With David host, David Cotton, you can listen to Episode 50 of the podcast, Graying Rainbows: Coming Out Later in Life LGBT+.
Coming True: Seeking Truth in Self Later in Life - Will Brown, LPC
The Coming Out Handbook - The Trevor Project
Coming Out - Human Rights Campaign (HRC)
Frankly My Dear I’m Gay: A Late Bloomers Guide To Coming Out – Rick Clemons
Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be – David Christel
Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight – Dr Loren A. Olson, MD
Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life – edited by Vinney Kineslla
Our Family Outing: A Memoir of Coming Out and Coming Through – Leigh Anne Taylor and Joe Cobb
Coming Out to Parents: A Two-Way Survival Guide for Lesbians and Gay Men and Their Parents - Mary V. Borhek
This Book is Gay - Juno Dawson
Coming Out Late — and Finding a New Life in Midlife - Charles M. Blow - New York Times 24 June 2023
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource by and for Transgender Communities - Laura Erickson-Schroth (Editor)
Gay Men and The New Way Forward - Raymond L. Rigoglioso
Jonathan Wilson: Out Late With David’s first guest, he was publicly outed 20 years ago on live TV. Here's what happened after that - powerful story of overcoming adversity and the subsequent success (video and print)
I’m From Driftwood | The LGBTQIA+ Story Archive - Coming Out Later in Life
One Last Haircut - A man comes out to his wife and breaks apart their family. Fifteen years later, we check back in. New York Times Modern Love Podcast, episode 290.
He Said, She Said: The Art of Coming Out and Being a Late Bloomer - The Coming Out Lounge Podcast
Spouse & Family Perspective
Guide to coming out as lesbian, gay or bisexual to your straight partner or spouse - by OurPath
My Husband Is Gay: A Woman’s Guide to Surviving the Crisis – Carol Crever
The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families – Amity Pierce Buxton
Over the Cliff: Gay Husbands in Straight Marriages – Bonnie Kaye and Doug Dittmer
When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual (Haworth Series in GLBT Family Studies (GLBTFS)) – Carol Crever
Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men? – Dr. Joe Kort
Facing A Mixed-Orientation Marriage with Gratitude and Hope - article by Rick Clemons and TEDx YouTube video
Bisexuality, Monogamy, and the Art of Commitment - original article in Portuguese; link translates to English
Choosing Gratitude and Hope - Matt Nightingale and Luanne Nightingale | TEDxSonomaCounty
Groups & Organizations
Gay Fathers Worldwide: a moderated Facebook Group that is a safe private forum for Gay Fathers that have previously been in a non gay relationship and have children from the relationship or that may still be in a relationship.
Husbands Out to Wives (HOW): an international on-line support group for gay and bisexual men who are married to women and are out to (or working toward coming out to) their wives.
PFLAG - is the United States' first and largest organization uniting parents, families, and allies with people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+). PFLAG National is the national organization, which provides support to the PFLAG network of local chapters. PFLAG has over 400 chapters across the United States, with more than 200,000 members and supporters.
Our Path: Empowering Partners, Husbands, and Wives of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Trans People to Find Their Own Path - OurPath serves Straight Partners and Partners of Trans People, families and the community.
First Friday Breakfast Club - Des Moines IA: helps men in the coming out process; also a 501(c)(3) charity providing scholarship to graduating high school seniors for post-secondary education
Prime Timers World Wide: social organization for mature gay/bi gentlemen
SAGE In Support of Coming Out: Support Groups for OIder Adults
SAGE | Advocacy & Services for LGBTQ+ Elders
amBi | amBi is a social club with a mission. We are here to build a world in which our bisexuality is a clear Human Rights Campaign (HRC) Coming Out Resourcessource of pride, joy, and strength.
Human Rights Campaign (HRC) Coming Out Resources: resources to help you come out and live openly at home, at work and in your community.
He Said, She Said: The Art of Coming Out and Being a Late Bloomer - The Coming Out Lounge
LGBTQ History & Perspective
Making Gay History by Eric Marcus – podcast: powerful stories for the struggles for equality and recognition
The Velvet Rage – Alan Downs
Straight Jacket: Overcoming Society’s Legacy of Gay Shame – Matthew Todd
10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives – Dr. Joe Kort
Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Sexual Fantasies – Dr. Joe Kort
A Gay Man's Guide to Life: Get Real, Stand Tall and Take Your Place - Britt East
The Ethical Slut: : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love - Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
Helping Gay Men Find Love: Tips for Guys on Dating and Beginning a Healthy Relationship - Israel Martinez
Gay Like Me: A Father Writes to His Son - Richie Jackson
Gay Men and the New Way Forward - Raymond L. Rigoglioso
U.S. LGBT Identification Steady at 7.2% - 2022 Gallup Poll of adults (Lesbian 13.4%, Gay 20.2%, Bisexual 58.2%, Transgender 8.8%)
Amid ‘unicorn hunters’ and stereotypes, here’s how bisexual people are finding support - USA Today via AmBi.org
State of Pride: Fifty years after the Stonewall uprising - Oscar®-winning filmmakers Rob Epstein and Jeffrey Friedman and host Raymond Braun travel to three diverse communities – Salt Lake City, San Francisco, and Tuscaloosa, Alabama – for an unflinching look at LGBTQ Pride, from the perspective of a younger generation for whom it still has personal urgency.
Personal Development
Daring Greatly – Brené Brown
Rising Strong – Brené Brown
The ManKind Project - a passionate and purpose-driven brotherhood building and supporting the emotionally mature, accountable, and compassionate male role models that our communities so desperately need